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Hurt and Frustration in Relationships
While these feelings are inevitable, good relationships can’t be built on expressions of hurt and anger alone.
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Robert Solley

March 2023

When Are We a "We"?
In what ways is it helpful (or not) to think of yourselves as a "we."
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Robert Solley

January 2023

Note to Readers
Navigating my posts most productively.
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Robert Solley

July 2020

A Guide to Better Relationships — From a PhD Couples Therapist
Seven Principles Towards A Well-Functioning, Securely Attached Partnership
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Robert Solley

May 2020

Strike These 5 Losing Strategies From Your Relationship
Terry Real’s five losing strategies to avoid in relationships, and how they relate to Gottman’s four horsemen.
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Robert Solley

April 2020

Relationship Stress In The Age of COVID-19
The Shifting Roles While Sheltering at Home
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Robert Solley

February 2020

Why Is My Partner Blowing Up Over Such a Small Thing?
And how to respond
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Robert Solley

January 2020

Are We Fighting Too Much?
Assessing and Addressing the Level of Conflict In Your Relationship
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Robert Solley

November 2019

Love is Psychedelic
Mind Expanding vs. Mind Narrowing
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Robert Solley
How to Think More Kindly About Your Partner’s Habits that Bug the Shit Out of You
Strategies for Minimzing Judgement
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Robert Solley

September 2019

I’ve been practicing what DBT creator Marsha Linehan calls “paced breathing” for over ten years…
This can be seen on the Heartmath software which graphs heart rate in near-real-time and shows respiratory sinus arrhytmia (RSA) as an…
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Robert Solley
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