Archive - What The Hell Happened To My Relationship?!

Hurt and Frustration in Relationships

While these feelings are inevitable, good relationships can’t be built on expressions of hurt and anger alone.

Jan 23, 2024 •

March 2023

When Are We a "We"?

In what ways is it helpful (or not) to think of yourselves as a "we."

Mar 11, 2023 •

January 2023

Note to Readers

Navigating my posts most productively.

Jan 13, 2023 •

July 2020

A Guide to Better Relationships — From a PhD Couples Therapist

Seven Principles Towards A Well-Functioning, Securely Attached Partnership

Jul 25, 2020 •

May 2020

Strike These 5 Losing Strategies From Your Relationship

Terry Real’s five losing strategies to avoid in relationships, and how they relate to Gottman’s four horsemen.

May 19, 2020 •

April 2020

Relationship Stress In The Age of COVID-19

The Shifting Roles While Sheltering at Home

Apr 3, 2020 •

February 2020

Why Is My Partner Blowing Up Over Such a Small Thing?

And how to respond

Feb 22, 2020 •

January 2020

Are We Fighting Too Much?

Assessing and Addressing the Level of Conflict In Your Relationship

Jan 29, 2020 •

November 2019

Love is Psychedelic

Mind Expanding vs. Mind Narrowing

Nov 8, 2019 •

How to Think More Kindly About Your Partner’s Habits that Bug the Shit Out of You

Strategies for Minimzing Judgement

Nov 1, 2019 •

September 2019

I’ve been practicing what DBT creator Marsha Linehan calls “paced breathing” for over ten years…

This can be seen on the Heartmath software which graphs heart rate in near-real-time and shows respiratory sinus arrhytmia (RSA) as an…

Sep 12, 2019 •

More realistic porn and sexual wellness

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Sep 7, 2019 •

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