What The Hell Happened To My Relationship?!

What The Hell Happened To My Relationship?!

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What The Hell Happened To My Relationship?!
What The Hell Happened To My Relationship?!
Hurt and Frustration in Relationships

Hurt and Frustration in Relationships

While these feelings are inevitable, good relationships can’t be built on expressions of hurt and anger alone.

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Robert Solley
Jan 23, 2024
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Hurt and Frustration in Relationships
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Frustration and hurt are inevitable in intimate relationships.  Why?  Because we are flawed human beings who are bound to do things from time to time that are misattuned or don’t match our partners’ expectations.  And for all kinds of reasons emotions run higher the closer we are tied. (See Why Do We Treat Our Loved Ones Worse Than Our Houseguests). The question is how to manage frustration and hurt so that they don’t become the dominant modes of communication, crowding out the good stuff.  Because when that happens, relationships go to the grave.

First, let’s take a look at the makeup of these emotions, so we can understand what we’re talking about.  Frustration is a variation of anger.  Hurt is actually a blend of emotions, including anger, which tends to be the one most easily expressed.  So both can come across with an angry-- possibly hostile--tone.  Anger in itself has value (as do all emotions). Its purpose is to energize us to either fight a threat…

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