What The Hell Happened To My Relationship?!

Share this post
What I’ve Learned About Relationships
drsolley.substack.com

What I’ve Learned About Relationships

As a Couples Therapist — Part I

Robert Solley
Aug 19, 2016
Share this post
What I’ve Learned About Relationships
drsolley.substack.com

As a Couples Therapist — Part I

Relationships are complicated. Let’s start with one human brain: one of the most complex structures that we know of in the universe. Though we talk about them as if they were two things, our brains and bodies are interlaced and inseparable. Emotions come about through an interplay of body and brain.

Emotions and emotional reactions are complex, recursive, and multi-layered.

So far I have just been talking about one brain/body. Now add a second person! Social interactions, including intimate relationships with our families of origin, current partners, other life-experiences, and all of the cross-currents between these, raise the level of complexity geometrically. Then add the effects of language. As much as we would like to think that language is exact, it is not. The ambiguities in language can muddy the waters considerably. Even trying to describe the complexities of relationships in words as I am here is necessarily extremely limited and over-simplified.

…

This post is for paid subscribers

Already a paid subscriber? Sign in
© 2023 Robert Solley
Privacy ∙ Terms ∙ Collection notice
Start WritingGet the app
Substack is the home for great writing